Friday, December 29, 2017

Coaching Forward


The old year is drawing to a close, and we are looking with hope towards 2018.  That probably involves some reflection on the year gone by, considering its favorites and also its faults and flaws.  A debrief conversation when coaching is a lot like this end-of-the-year reflection.  A teacher may be more comfortable looking back on a lesson if she is using the reflection to look forward – to consider teaching moves she might make in the future – rather than focusing too much on the lesson that has already occurred.  I call this coaching forward.

When we coach forward, we use post-conferences to connect reflection with future practice. The lesson has passed, and it is useful only as the pillar that holds the bridge to future lessons.  The phrase, “As we think about the next lesson….” becomes a pivot point from past to future for both the high points and the low when coaching forward.  “As we think about the next lesson, what do you want to be sure to hang on to from this lesson?”  “As we think about the next lesson, what might you want to change?” 

I took this approach recently when working with Amy after she’d taught a first-grade lesson on adjectives.  Amy felt the lesson was successful and had evidence from student work to support her assertion.  When we talked about what went well, it was with an eye toward future lessons.  She noted that students were engaged as they generated lists together, using their five senses to stimulate and categorize their thinking.  When I prompted Amy about what she might want to hang on to from this lesson, she was able to articulate the success in terms of building on previous learning and taking a constructivist approach.  Coaching forward helped Amy crystalize her learning.  The approach that worked so well after this successful lesson can also be helpful following a less-successful one.

When coaching talk is backward-focused, there may be an uncomfortable emphasis on what could have gone better in a lesson.  Taking a future-focus increases comfort and makes a post-observation conference more productive.  For Amy, coaching forward led to the construction of action plans.  Objective observations from the lesson are important insofar as they support conversations that are directed toward future practice.   

As you coach your way into the new year, resolve to create space for teachers to generate ideas that lean to the future, mentally rehearsing how the next lesson builds from the last.  Coaching forward takes a “back to the future” approach, framing reflective conversations that support future teaching.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

A podcast with Jim Burke, author of English Teacher’sCompanion, as he takes a back-to-the-future view of his career:



The role of stories in teaching and change:



A video for students that describes a concrete approach to short constructed responses (the R-A-C-E strategy):



Summarizing in science:

Dealing with distraction:

That’s it for this week.  Happy New Year!


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Saturday, December 23, 2017

Coaching with Curiosity

“The important thing is not to stop questioning.”    –Albert Einstein

Asking questions is a powerful coaching tool for gathering information, engaging others in discussion, clarifying perspectives, and facilitating self-discovery.  By asking questions, coaches encourage the teachers they are working with to flesh out their own objectives and search for answers.

An important attribute of powerful questions is curiosity.  When coaches ask with genuine curiosity, we communicate respect and show faith in the teacher because we demonstrate that we value what she has to say.  It can be hard to pull away from our own knowledge and experience enough to ask an authentic question.  We have to mentally set aside the answer we would give enough to care about the teacher’s response.  We don’t just care because it tells us what the teacher knows or doesn’t know.  We care because we recognize that the teacher knows her students and her objectives better than we possibly could, and because of this, she will offer insights that we might not have considered. 

So, we offer up questions and wait patiently for authentic answers.  This takes faith on the part of the teacher, too.  Faith that we are not just fishing for the answer we want to hear, and faith that she does have something to offer to the conversation.  It also takes silence, leaving room for the teacher to say her part.  Silence allows time for the teacher to process both our question and her answer. It means not rushing in to fill the quiet with speech of our own, and not leading the teacher to the answer we want to hear.  You’ve seen teachers do this with students.  Check yourself to make sure you are not falling into this bated trap.

Listening is critical.  Often the next question is provided by the teacher’s answer, if one listens closely.  We will probably find a follow-up question If we listen carefully to a teacher’s responses when we ask:

·         What does that look like to you…..(after a teacher says she wants students to be able to show their thinking, for example)

·         Has there been a time when….(a student has clearly described their problem-solving process?).

·         What about “X” is important to you? (when reviewing the exit tickets from a lesson, for example).

Asking with genuine curiosity encourages a teacher to offer sincere responses and communicates that the teacher’s words matter.  We demonstrate that their words count.  Asking with curiosity raises the quality of the conversation and the learning that takes place during a coaching conversation.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

Aim high!  If your students will be setting New Year’s goals, you might want to inspire them with this:



Resources for fighting fake news:



3 Strategies to make note-taking interactive:



Ideas for talking about math (share with parents or use yourself!).  Ages 1-9 or so; age filters on the right. Lots to explore here!



Start a lesson or reclaim students’ attention with the Stand Up Game:


That’s it for this week.  Happy Holidays!


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Friday, December 15, 2017

Using Third Points

It’s dangerous to label people. We don’t like labels that convey fixed-abilities or disabilities; we opt for more open-ended language.  But being able to label what we do as coaches can help us be more thoughtful and intentional about those moves.  This week, I learned about third points, a tool I have been using without knowing the label.  Now that I’ve got a way of talking about this approach, I know I’ll be using third points more effectively.  And by the end of this post, I hope your awareness will increase your effectiveness, too.

People usually value two-point communication – the two points being the two people communicating, looking directly at each other.  In professional situations, two-point communication is usually a way to build personal relationships and trust.  But in difficult conversations, two-point communication can do just the opposite.  And that is where third points come in.

A third point is something (anything!) that shifts attention away from eye-to-eye contact.  It could be something on a paper or screen – a list, a graph, a class data set, a video, a list of goals the teacher has set, an article.  Whatever it is, it gives you and the teacher something to look at rather than each other when difficult information is being discussed.  Shifting away from eye-contact deflects feelings of “attack” and allows the teacher to save face, quite literally because her face isn’t being stared at.  The third point can be something that is in front of both of you so that you can explore it together.

It’s even better if the third point communicates the difficult information for you.  As the information is being absorbed, keep looking at the third point, even if the teacher looks up.  Wait until she regains her balance before looking up again.  This minimizes potential feelings of embarrassment or humiliation; the teacher still feels respected.  Since you’re not making eye contact, she feels less need to defend or hide feelings of being upset.  Our goals is to help the teacher feel as comfortable as possible so that we maintain a relationship conducive to instructional improvement; using a third point keeps the coaching temperature comfortable.

I realize that I’ve done this without really thinking about it during difficult conversations.  I’ve pointed something out on an observation sheet, saying, “Let’s see what I noticed.”  I’ve referenced teachers’ goals, recorded in my notebook.  I’ve shifted our attention to an anchor chart we were creating on the screen, or let a video do the talking when bringing up problematic segments of a lesson.  When I’ve done this, I have felt tension decrease. 

When a third point is involved, negative thoughts that arise can be directed toward the third point rather than toward the coach, and that is helpful.  When negative reactions are directed toward the coach, it makes it difficult to maintain the kind of relationship required for effective coaching.

Now that I have a label for this non-verbal communication tool, I know I’ll use it better.  My reminder for myself is: Look up when communicating positive information; shift to a third point when communicating information that might be received negatively.

Knowing this will help me plan in advance to have a third point handy.  Think about a difficult conversation that you’ve had recently.  Did you use a third point? If so, how did the conversation change when the third point was introduced? 

Adding a third point can change a difficult conversation for the better.  As I become more aware of my use of third points, I’m sure I’ll refine my ideas about using them.  I bet you will, too.  If you do, please add a comment so that we can learn together.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

A protocol for discussing topics with diverse perspectives (they are talking about assessment, but you could use this structure with any topic):



The engagometer – ask the students if they were engaged:



Supporting metacognition and knowing when to abandon writing:



Vocabulary instruction in science:



What to do before asking students to self-assess:



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Saturday, December 9, 2017

Building Reflectors

Reflective teachers are better teachers.  Although reflection is important in any profession, teachers have a special need for reflection because they usually carry out their responsibilities in isolation from their colleagues.  Because they neither see nor are seen by peers as they teach, the best avenue for growth is self-reflection.

Reflection is about careful thought: conscious consideration of actions for the purpose of learning.  Reflecting gives the brain an opportunity to pause amidst the busy-ness, untangle and sort through observations and experiences, consider interpretations, and create meaning. This meaning can inform future decisions and actions. For teachers, this meaning-making is crucial for ongoing professional development.

For some, reflection comes naturally.  Others know the definition but don’t really understand the process.  Reflection requires slowing down and taking a mindset of curiosity.  It also means taking personal responsibility. The process can lead to valuable insights, but taking an honest look at the way a lesson (or day) played out can also lead to discomfort, vulnerability, and defensiveness.  Although reflection helps us see things that worked well, we have a tendency to let our thoughts gravitate to things that went less well.  That can be a problem if our attitude toward those weaknesses is defensiveness or blame-shifting. It’s also a problem if staring those weaknesses down blinds us to the strengths of a lesson. Recognizing what worked encourages us to continue using those effective strategies.  

So, sometimes teachers don’t reflect because they don’t know how, don’t like the process, or don’t like the results.  Another reason for neglecting reflection is lack of time.  Teachers have so many tangible things to get done that it’s difficult to spend time on a process where the results are less apparent.  The stack of papers gets shorter as you assign grades, but reflection has no immediate, visible effect.  The ROI (return on investment) on reflection isn’t instantaneous; however, the dividends of reflection are significant and ongoing.

Coaches can support teacher reflection in many ways.  The most common is by reflecting with the teacher, asking questions that inquire to broaden thinking or probe to consider specific data.  It’s also important to help teachers build the habit of self-reflection.  The questions coaches ask during conferences can become internalized, making reflection more automatic.  This indirect approach is helpful, but we can also support self-reflection through explicit conversations about it.  As you talk with teachers about self-reflection, you can help them address the challenges noted above.  Here are a few suggestions for encouraging reflection:

·         As you walk with teachers through the reflection process, describe the path you are following with them.  If you have a protocol you use to guide the process, share that protocol with teachers.  If you have specific questions you find productive, share a list of those questions.  This helps teachers recognize what reflection might include and gives them tools to support that process as it becomes internalized.

·         For teachers who take an Eeyore approach to reflecting (seeing the negative), celebrating the results of reflection as you work with them emphasizes the benefits.  Be explicit about pointing out the connections between reflection and results.  In addition, be sure that the tools you recommend for reflection provide a balanced view. 

·         Encourage teachers to select a reflection process that works for them.  Some teachers reflect through writing, some by talking it out with a trusted friend. Others find that making an audio recording on their phone so they can revisit it later is helpful. Some keep a notepad handy near their bed and reflect while drifting off or waking up.  You can reflect while walking, biking or standing; alone or with a partner.  No matter which approach is taken, it is helpful to have a way to capture the brilliant “ah-hah’s” that are sure to come!

·         If reflection isn’t a habit, urge a teacher to schedule time on her calendar for that process. Check back and ask how she’s doing at keeping her commitment to herself.  If she’s avoiding or skipping it, encourage her to reflect on that!

Reflection is time to be still, examine our thinking, and consider multiple perspectives.  For many teachers, lack of understanding, experience, or time can get in the way of reflection.  As coaches support this important process, they increase impact, boosting improvements in instruction.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

3 tips for successful PLC’s:



Ideas for teaching literacy skills during the interrupted month of December:



Changing the conversation about grades:



Play is making a come-back:



Using Interactive reading guides in science:



That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, December 1, 2017

Finding the "Why" for Change

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” - Friedrich Nietzsche

CHANGE is a big, scary word for most people. We know our routines and we are as comfortable in them as in our favorite jeans.  So when we are asked to change, that can make us uncomfortable.  And change is hard work. So how do we find the energy to move change forward?   Knowing our “why” can help fuel the change.

Several years ago, I was tasked with adopting new literacy materials for the elementary schools in my district.  More important than just updating old books, we had to have a purpose for spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on materials. We had to find out why.  So we created philosophy statements to guide our work and then searched for materials that aligned with them. Statements like:

The learner must be at the center of literacy instruction.

Literacy instruction equips students to construct meaning, think critically, form educated opinions, and make knowledgeable decisions.

Literacy learning must include a wide range of reading, writing, communication, and technology associated with life today and life in the future. 

Our philosophy statements helped frame our “why” for finding and using new resources.  We teach literacy because we want our students to think critically and make knowledgeable decisions. We teach literacy because we want our students to be have tools for effective communication.

Change in our 30 elementary schools was hard work. Many teachers hadn’t previously used small group instruction, but we were fueled by our philosophy that “Instruction should target students’ needs and be provided at their instructional level.”  When we hit a road block or a challenge, we worked through or around it; our philosophy statements gave us resilience.

So what is your why?  First think about your why as a coach (because there will certainly be days when you need to remind yourself why you are doing this hard work!).  To find your coaching why, ask yourself:

·         What is it about your job that inspires you? What are you passionate about? When you focus on what you are passionate about, your influence and impact increase.  What you do has to be congruent with what you care about.

·         What are your strengths? What talents and skills do you bring to the table.  This is your private reflection time, so don’t be modest.  Knowing what you are good at helps to focus your why.

·         How will you measure success?  Working toward the goals that matter most to you gives you purpose.  When we align the work we are doing (both baby steps and big ones) with the objectives we want to achieve, we lengthen our stride. We accept challenges that extend and inspire us.

Go ahead.  Take a moment to ponder your inspiration, your strengths, and your objectives. Then craft a power statement that is your why for coaching.  After you’ve lived this process for yourself, you can guide others through it, finding whys specific to an initiative you are leading or a goal for school improvement that your faculty has set.  Our whys ignite our passion, fuel our creativity, and give us the energy for the hard work we call CHANGE.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

Why students’ happiness matters:



More writing, less grading:



How to make a hovercraft (and other inexpensive, do-it-yourself physics ideas):



Using books to teach social-emotional skills:



Paraphrasing in science:



That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, November 24, 2017

Increasing the Odds

When we are trying something new or making important decisions, we look to an expert for guidance.  As I was making investment decisions recently, I counseled with my brother, who works in finance and has much deeper understanding than I do of stocks and the market.  I was grateful that he took the time to explain not just his recommendations, but why he was making them.  I walked away from our conversation with the ability to make more informed decisions.  Investing in the stock market always means playing the odds, so I needed to make my own decisions and assume the risk.

In educational settings, we also look to experts: the student looks to her teacher; the teacher looks to a principal or coach; the coach looks to professional literature and experts in the field.  As leaders implement educational initiatives, knowing the research in the field and seeking the advice of experts can improve the odds for success.

Recently, I worked with a team of researchers who asked experts their opinion about a new literacy initiative in our state (Arkansas).  What we learned has import not just for Arkansas and not just for literacy; what we learned has implications for any educational change initiative, so I thought I’d share the results with you. 

We asked experts (mostly Reading Hall-of-Fame members) to rate and comment on statements from our state’s literacy initiative. We also interviewed the experts to deepen our understanding of their recommendations. While the experts agreed with many of the statements our state provided to guide the reform, these education gurus had an important caution:  Context and the needs of individual students, they said, are ultimately important in instructional decision-making.  Similarly, our experts warned against the use of extremes and absolutes (as in “all,” and “every”).  The experts’ emphasis on context and flexibility remind us that there is no one-size-fits all curriculum.  These top researchers in their field, while emphasizing the value of using everything research has taught us about good instruction, admonish us to remember another thing that research has taught us:  There is no perfect method, lesson, or curriculum, because students’ needs and abilities are variable.  An initiative that does not encourage flexibility to match instruction to students’ needs is doomed to failure.

The experts we sought advice from also emphasized the importance of students’ engagement and motivation as considerations for our initiative.  And I’ll add that it’s important to consider teachers’ engagement, too.  What makes implementing an initiative motivating for teachers? Do they feel ownership for the change?  Are improvements being celebrated?  Is their expertise honored?  For educational change to have successful results, both students and teachers need to be cognitively engaged in the process. Since instructional coaches are often the feet on the ground in a change initiative, we can improve the odds of success by heeding these experts’ warnings.

As we move into the final stretch of the first semester, it’s time to take a hard look at initiatives we’ve been implementing this year.  What changes were on the docket for your district or school as the year got underway?  Pause for a moment and consider the extent to which these expert recommendations have been heeded. Are students’ needs at the core?  Are both students and teachers motivated and cognitively engaged?  Failed educational change initiatives destroy morale, waste time and resources, and limit student learning.  So seeking and heeding the advice of experts is an investment worth making.

(If you’re interested in a summary of the study about our state’s literacy initiative, you can find it here.)

This week you might want to take a look at:

Coaching veteran teachers with respect:



A really good article about fake news – teaching students to be skeptical but not dismissive of media:



I love heart maps for helping students generate writing ideas!  Find details for using them with young children here:



Lesson plan on analyzing political cartoons:



Teaching independence (think about this parenting article from a teacher perspective):


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, November 17, 2017

Ever-Ready Prompt

The Boy Scouts have a motto that also serves coaches well:  “Be prepared.”  As coaches, we may be surprised by a comment during a coaching conversation, we might be caught in the hall for an impromptu recommendation, and we often are asked to respond when we have incomplete information.  When we’re caught off-guard or feeling confused or uninformed, it’s helpful to have a tip-of-the-tongue response to give us time to settle, think, and get the bigger picture. An ever-ready response that works well for me in these situations is, “Say more about that.”

Peter Johnston, author of the excellent book, Opening Minds, describes use of the “Say more about that” prompt as a formative assessment tool when conferring with children.  I’ve found it to be equally powerful in coaching conversations.  “Say more about that” is an invitation that prompts the teacher to give me a better understanding of the situation and think things through herself.  It gives me time to shift my focus to the current situation and gain valuable insight that allows for an informed and thoughtful response.  And as the teacher articulates the question, she often clarifies her own thinking and begins formulating solutions.

Recently, I was walking down the hall when a teacher stopped me with, “Do you have a minute?” She asked about a recommendation given at a recent training (a training I hadn’t attended), where they’d been told not to give meaning-based texts to students before they were fluent readers.  Taken aback,   I prompted, “Say more about that.”  What ensued was a healthy conversation that I hope supported her own experience and expertise as a teacher of beginning readers.  As she began talking, she seemed hesitant, but as our conversation continued, she solidified her own philosophy about the part that decodable texts might play in the balanced diet of a novice reader.  If I had jumped in with the aghast response that initially sprang to mind, I would have denied the rich thinking that ensued as we processed together.  “Say more about that” paid off.

I’m just waiting for the time when one of the teachers I’m working with turns the tables.  After I give a recommendation during a passing-in-the-hall conversation, I’ll smile and know that I am having an impact when a teacher asks me to “Say more about that.”

This week, you might want to take a look at:

Ideas for improving peer feedback during writing workshop:

What will career-ready look like in 10-15 years? Here are some guesses:



Photos sure to spark interesting conversations (and attention to detail):



Suggestions for making grades more meaningful:



How to make a hovercraft (and other inexpensive, do-it-yourself physics ideas):


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, November 10, 2017

Noticing Change


Our brains filter information as a matter of survival.  Think of all the data our senses are feeding our brain in one minute!  So much to see, hear, and feel!  To avoid information overload, our brains select what to pay attention to.  That is a good thing.  However, it can also make us blind to change.  If, as coaches and teachers, we want to become more aware of change (and whether or not it is happening), we need two thing:  reference points and a reason to look.* 

Reference points for change are baseline data.  What did it used to be like?  A phrase my oldest son uses to talk about times past comes to mind: “Back in the day…..”  So, back in the day before I had the habit of seting a clear purpose for each activity, what was student response like?  We can count on our memories or, better yet, we can collect data on students’ responses to answer this question for ourselves or for the teacher we coach.  Past experience and record-keeping provide a reference point for recognizing change.

Having a reason to look makes specific information relevant for our brains.  We notice change when we have a reason to compare our reference point with our present reality.  Regularly scheduled meetings, such as a PLC, give us a reason to look if there’s an expectation that we will return and report.

I had a reason to look this week when I was talking with colleagues about the importance of setting a purpose for each activity.  I thought about the differences I had noticed in my own teaching.   Now that I have been consistently providing a clear purpose for each activity, when I stop to think about it, I realize that students are more active during these learning experiences, not just passive listeners.  When I show a video clip proceeded by the suggestion, “While you’re watching this video, be sure to notice….”, students sit up a little straighter and some even take notes!  Our discussion afterwards is more fruitful, too.  Having a reason to look helped me realize the positive changes that have occurred. 

Scheduling reasons to look helps everyone recognize whether changes are (or are not) occurring.  As coaches, we encourage and celebrate change.  Providing reference points and reasons to look can make our encouragement and our celebrations more focused and hopefully more frequent!

This week, you might want to take a look at:

Five ways to start a lesson:



Ideas for incorporating literature (fiction and non-fiction) into history class:



Word work that works:



Narratives of our teaching lives (or could be adapted for students):



Infographic with facts about English Language Learners:


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!


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Friday, November 3, 2017

Blind Spots

As a young adult, I was sometimes accused of being unobservant.  With my nose in a book, I could easily be lost to the world around me.  That changed, however, when I became a teacher.  Teachers develop the uncanny ability to know what is going on all around them and they are sometimes accused of having eyes in the back of their heads.  Although that would be a medical oddity, it would certainly be handy in the classroom!

Lacking that extra pair of eyes, it is helpful to have a coach around!  Although teachers have well-honed observation skills, it’s not possible to attend to everything at once.  Even expert teachers benefit from another’s perspective on the teaching and learning occurring in their classroom.  Brenda Powers points out, “When someone else is poring over notes from an observation with you, or seeking clues from student work, you can’t help but see things that weren’t in your field of vision before.”  She calls these oversights “blind spots.”  In my car, I minimize my blind spots by positioning my mirrors just so.  Coaches can be like the mirrors, reflecting back for the teacher what has occurred.

It’s helpful, if possible, to meet with a teacher before observing so that you can jointly determine a focus for the observation.  That way your noticings are more likely to be useful to the teacher, focused on a concern she has already identified.  Another way to determine what noticings you’ll share is to begin a debrief conversation by asking the teacher what she noticed during the lesson.  Linking your comments to what the teacher is already considering increases uptake.  But what if there are things that seem glaring to you but are missed by the teacher?  I can often find a way into these comments by asking a question, “What did you notice about XXX.” 

Remember the classroom management advice, “Catch them doing something good”?  We can also help to improve instruction as we notice, note, and share the moments when things are going well.  Just like with young students, improvement happens when something we only do occasionally becomes something we do regularly.  Drawing teachers’ attention to these occasional successes is likely to increase their frequency.

With all that is going on during a lesson, we want to be sure that the things we notice and discuss will be helpful. Having another pair of eyes to see, another pair of hands to record, improves instruction when the noticings are thoughtfully gathered and shared.


This week, you might want to take a look at:



Benefits of a flipped classroom:


Engaging students through play-based learning (not just for the little ones!):


A podcast on dealing with student grammar errors:



Resolve of a struggling early-career teacher:



Teaching children to fail well:


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, October 27, 2017

Feedback & Fight-or-Flight

Remember learning about the fight-or-flight instinct in psychology class?  A stressful situation can trigger a cascade of psychological and physiological responses as the heart pounds and muscles tense, ready for escape.  That self-preservation instinct can kick in during a coaching conversation, too.

The scientific names for fight-or-flight, “hyperarousal” and “acute stress response” are telling.  During a coaching conversation, what might cause hyper-arousal or stress?  If teachers see feedback as threatening, they won’t be in a frame of mind for considering new ways of working.  I’ve noticed that if I jump in with a concern at the beginning of a conversation, or if I dump too much information or too many recommendations, a mental fight-or-flight kicks in.

To avoid fight-or-flight, I have to be intentional about creating a supportive atmosphere.  Recommendations will bounce like rubber balls off the blacktop unless I’m prepared.  I have to center myself first – take a deep breath, consciously relax, even close my eyes for a second or two.  The calmness I feel sets the tone.

Offering time for teacher reflection before offering recommendations gets us off to a good start, giving the teacher control of the conversation early on.  It also gives me the opportunity to tie our suggestions to a need the teacher has perceived.  The conversation is discussion-based, and I am careful not to dominate the conversation. 

Our conversations feel useful and productive when recommendations are specific, so it’s important that I prioritize a narrow area of focus.  If I’ve observed a lesson, I keep the conversation anchored in evidence from the observation.  The recommendation is couched in examples.  We create an understanding not only of current practice, but of how to elevate it.  Together, we establish a vision of what the effective practice looks like and, if time allows, we begin planning for its use.

When recommendations come with resources (including knowledge and support to fulfill them), we’re more likely to see the suggestions as an invigorating challenge. Then we are inspired to activate our creativity and our own resourcefulness.  When recommendations are offered in an encouraging way as part of a collegial conversation, coaching feels worthwhile to the teacher, and, most importantly, changes in practice are possible.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

The power of one-on-one conversations in coaching:



Build your own superhero and create a narrative involving the character:



Share this with new teachers – Sign up here for a month of quick, encouraging emails to get you through the hardest part of your first year:


Small groups in secondary ELA:



Benefits of play (find ways to make learning playful!):


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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