Saturday, November 15, 2025

No More Coaching Cycles

Discussions of coaching typically talk about the work we do as “coaching cycles.” It’s time to stop this language and instead describe coaching work in a way that is more responsive and relational. Let’s talk about coaching rhythms.
 
The dictionary defines rhythm as movement marked by regular recurrence or natural flow. According to researchers Klarner and Raisch,* who study organizational change, a rhythm is how moves are timed. These descriptions fit my GIR model for coaching (below). The 5 coaching moves (modeling, recommending, questioning, affirming, and praising) are used in a natural flow in response to teachers’ needs.
 
Appropriate coaching support will guide, challenge, or validate. The squiggly line in the GIR model shows that coaching isn’t a linear process – it’s a fluid one. There’s no circular movement indicated, although we might certainly revisit more supportive coaching moves as needed, especially as we work with the same teacher on different skills.
 
Although in general your coaching will move from more supportive to less supportive during a coaching cycle, the path is not a linear one. I’ve described it as shifting, sinuous, flexible, and responsive.
 
Instructional improvement is contextual, so coaching is a cha-cha. We will step forward and back, and there will be lifts and dips along the way. We know that the upward sloping line in the GIR model indicates growth, but the cha-cha of coaching includes small steps back, too. When it seems needed, don’t hesitate to lean on a move that offers more support, like modeling or recommending. If one move doesn’t bear fruit, we can lean back and try an approach that provides more scaffolding. The 5 coaching moves create the rhythm of our coaching work.
 
Coaching is responsive; if we stick too long with a move that’s not needed, we are over-scaffolding; this reduces teachers’ agency and motivation. We know how to move by paying careful attention to the teacher and the context. We are ready to reposition, to find a match between the support needed by the teacher and the support offered by each of the 5 coaching moves. This is the rhythm of responsive coaching.
 
Finding the right pace supports authentic teacher learning. Just as students learn at different speeds, teachers, too, have unique paces of growth. To keep the metaphorical coaching dance engaging and challenging, our coaching moves match teachers’ motion.
 
My friend Karen, an experienced and amazing coach, told me that early in her coaching career, she would carefully plan a framework for an upcoming coaching conversation and then stick to the plan. “Those conversations left me feeling that they didn’t quite land,” she said. Karen knew something was off. Then one day, a teacher said to her, “It feels like you’re continuing a conversation from the past, but I’m not in that same place anymore.” Karen realized that a plan is helpful, but flexibility is essential. “Truly listening,” Karen said, allows coaches to align with where teachers are “both in their professional learning and in the moment during the conversation.” “It’s essential to stay flexible and responsive,” she said. “Effective coaching requires us to meet teachers in their current space.” We’ve got to adjust the rhythm.
 
Responsive coaches are those who pay attention. They reinvent and adapt to the experiences of those they serve. They build on the resources that teachers bring to the table and attend to current needs. To find out what those needs are, you might ask, “What are you wondering about right now?” or “What is missing for you right now?” Teachers’ wonderings and questions will provide insight about how you can support them. Their questions will tell you what they are troubled by and what they want help with. That is the beginning. We can’t know what to do until we know where they are. Then we know how to move. We know the next beat in the rhythm.
 
As you gather information from teachers, you can make professional decisions about how to best support them. You will be armed with greater understanding about teachers’ current needs. You will be more responsive. Teaching and coaching must always be dynamically adapted and reinvented to match learners and contexts.
 
Coaches are responsive when they are attuned to teachers’ abilities, interests, and needs. They are aware of emotional concerns and aware of teachers’ successes and celebrations. Coaching well can’t be done apathetically.
 
Instead of a cycle that elicits a supervisory schedule of observation and evaluative feedback, coaches who are responsive offer collaboration and consultation – we reason together. Within a coaching rhythm, observation and feedback are options but not expectations, and data collection often focuses on students, not teachers.
 
Another feature influencing coaching rhythms is the relationship that has been built between teacher and coach. Teachers and coaches are all very different individuals, so the relationship between the two will vary. Each coaching relationship is unique.
 
Coaching is relational work, and a relationship of trust is required. Trust involves confidence that someone will act in your best interest, an assurance that they are on your side.
 
Coaching rhythms are relational and responsive. The pattern of the 5 moves in the GIR model is determined by teachers’ needs, flowing in real-time response to the teacher. We adjust the tempo and intensity of support. Change should be carefully timed in keeping with an individual’s resources and the time required to learn. Coaching rhythms set the direction and magnitude of change.
 
The GIR Model helps coaches carefully consider a dynamic process for supporting growth. Differentiated coaching means recognizing teachers’ strengths and needs and then varying the supports provided as those you work with gain experience and expertise, one step at a time. The GIR model can guide our moves as we create a coaching rhythm.
 














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Did you know My Coaches Couch is also a podcast? (with different content) Find it in your favorite podcast app or at
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This week, you might want to take a look at:

Give teachers more of what they need – TIME:
 
https://www.smartbrief.com/original/the-gift-of-time-is-an-educators-best-tool
 
 
This video of a writing conference, nudging a student toward multimodal informational text:
 
https://vimeo.com/1085826263/7a570821fe?ts=0&share=copy
 
 
Strategies for strengthening teacher-coach relationships:
 
https://www.ascd.org/el/articles/how-good-coaches-build-alliance-with-teachers
 
 
A stance of confident humility:
 
https://barkleypd.com/blog/confident-humility-and-coaching/
 
 
A reminder for coaches to be active listeners:
 
https://simplycoachingandteaching.com/blog/2021/10/05/better-listener/
 
That’s it for this week. Happy Coaching!
 
Want more coaching tips? Check out my book, Differentxiated Mentoring & Coaching in Education: From Preservice Teacher to Expert Practitioner, available from Teachers College Press!  I’m so excited to share it with you! You can use the code: FDNF25 for 15% off. Click  here  and I’ll email you the free Book Group Study Guide that includes questions, prompts, and activities you can use as you share the book with colleagues.  I hope you’ll love this book as much as I loved making it for you!

Saturday, November 8, 2025

Coaching with a Gentle Nudge

Change is hard, so sometimes we need a nudge to make it happen.  We may lack confidence, courage, or motivation to try new things of which we are capable, but a nudge can get us moving in the right direction. When coaching, recommendations work best when they feel like a gentle nudge rather than an edict.
 
Aking permission is one way to make a recommendation feel more nudge-like. We might say, “Do you mind if I share some ideas with you?” or ““Can I share my experience?” Even though the teacher is very unlikely to say “no,” somehow, the asking makes a difference. It seems to open the way.
 
A recommendation is more nudge-like, too, if it’s a small step rather than a giant one. When I met with a teacher who truly wanted to improve the whole-group discussions in her classroom, I realized that small steps were needed. Tasha was committed, but she had a lot of work to do to improve classroom discussions. I felt that if I shared all the things I’d been thinking about in terms of improving class discussions, Tasha would become overwhelmed. What she needed were small steps to move her in the right direction. So I suggested a very concrete idea: Rather than suggesting something to do, my first recommendation was something to avoid. Working on not doing something seemed much easier than working on doing something.
 
So, I said, “Do you think you could totally do away with the sentence stem, ‘Who can raise their hand and tell me?” To hand-raise or not to hand-raise wasn’t the issue here. But Tasha’s habitual question-starter seemed to turn off students’ brains – they seemed to be thinking, “This question doesn’t have to be for me if I don’t raise my hand.” So, rather than suggesting that Tasha work on getting all students engaged in the thinking, it felt more manageable to work on eliminating these eight words. It was a small step, and I could tell by the way Tasha’s face lit up that she felt confident she could do it. There were many small steps on Tasha’s journey to improved classroom discussion, but this gentle nudge got her moving in the right direction.
 
A nudge is an invitation, a tender prompt forward. Pushing, on the other hand, usually doesn’t work. To push is to “press against with force.”  That doesn’t sound very nice, does it? When someone pushes against me with force, I’ve noticed that I have a tendency to push back. It seems like the natural way to keep my equilibrium. If I don’t offer some resistance, I might topple over from the force. 
But a nudge allows me to keep my footing. I’m not going to fall, I’m just going to move forward. To nudge is to touch gently or urge into action. A nudge is a recommendation loaded with assurance. Pete Carroll said, “Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out. Sometimes they just need a little nudge, a little direction, a little support, a little coaching, and the greatest things can happen.”*  He was talking about football, but instructional coaches can unlock power, too.
 
A nudge is likely to be received gracefully and with appreciation. A pushy recommendation is likely to be met with pushback rather than change. Take a moment and reflect on who might need a nudge to take that next positive step – something you know they are capable of doing, but they may not. Being a pusher can be tiresome and unproductive, but being a nudger is something to aspire to!
 
Asking permission and naming small steps are two ways to make recommendations nudge-like. The difference between nudging and pushing is a matter of language. Our ways with words make a big difference in how a recommendation is received.
 
*247sports, n.d.
 
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Did you know My Coaches Couch is also a podcast? (with different content) Find it in your favorite podcast app or at MyCoachesCouch.podbean.com
 
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This week, you might want to take a look at:

Video analysis as a coaching tool:
 
https://www.teachingchannel.com/free-videos/
 
 
Why writing instruction matters more than ever in an AI-driven world:
 
https://districtadministration.com/opinion/why-writing-still-matters-teaching-human-skills-in-an-ai-powered-world/
 
 
Perfectionism or perseverance? It shows up even in kindergarten:
 
https://ccira.blog/2025/09/22/ice-cream-penguins-and-other-thoughts-on-the-growth-mindset/
 
 
Using tech to help students learn from one another:
 
https://choiceliteracy.com/article/the-good-part-of-tech/
Nonverbal communication in the classroom:
 
https://www.teachingchannel.com/blog/nonverbal-communication-in-your-classroom
 
That’s it for this week. Happy Coaching!
 
Want more coaching tips? Check out my book, Differentxiated Mentoring & Coaching in Education: From Preservice Teacher to Expert Practitioner, available from Teachers College Press!  I’m so excited to share it with you! You can use the code: FDNF25 for 15% off. Click  here  and I’ll email you the free Book Group Study Guide that includes questions, prompts, and activities you can use as you share the book with colleagues.  I hope you’ll love this book as much as I loved making it for you!

Saturday, November 1, 2025

Coaching from Comfort

As a coach, you know that not all teachers need or want recommendations, but for those who are looking for guidance, making recommendations fills an important role. By making recommendations, coaches encourage teachers and support ongoing improvement.
 
When conferring with a teacher who might benefit from your suggestions, it helps to frame the recommendation within a comfortable context. For example, when I was coaching Kate, an elementary teacher, building from her favorite content area (math) helped my recommendations feel comfortable.
 
 I’d been talking with Kate about writing conferences, but writing wasn’t Kate’s strong suit. Since she has a math brain and is a natural problem-solver, it helped when I began our conversation about writing conferences by thinking with her about how she provides feedback in math. “I love trying to figure out what they’re doing,” she said. “If the answer isn’t right, it’s like solving a puzzle to figure out what went wrong.”
 
“So think about using the same approach in a writing conference,” I said. “Just like when you’re scaffolding in math, you’ll have to first figure out where the writing process has broken down. Once you solve that puzzle, you can figure out the support that’s needed.”
 
I noted how the light went on in Kate’s eyes when I said the word “puzzle.” It was an aha moment for her. My recommendation helped her connect with successful past experiences. Couching the suggestion in a conversation about content that Kate was comfortable with made a difference.
 
When coaching Angela, a middle-school teacher, I started by acknowledging the powerful conversations she was having with students: her thoughtful attention to individuals, her calm and assuring presence and encouragement, and her recognition of students’ strengths. I labeled these individual interactions for her as “conferences,” a term that was new to her. Initially, we talked about structuring those conferences for increased impact. I built on what she was already comfortable with before making suggestions that were a bit more outside of her comfort zone.
 
Making suggestions as part of a collegial conversation, with a comfortable context, a casual tone, and a chance for dialogue, increases the likelihood that recommendations will be used, moving the teacher’s learning forward.
 
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Did you know My Coaches Couch is also a podcast? Find it in your favorite podcast app or at MyCoachesCouch.podbean.com  This week's episode offers a magic coaching question!
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This week, you might want to take a look at:

Learning walks with teachers as a coaching practice:

https://ashleytaplin.com/2021/09/17/instructional-scouting-a-new-practice-for-learning-walks/

 

This learning/PD/collaboration tool – Box It Out:

https://www.thecoachingsketchnotebook.com/2021/09/a-new-tool-for-pd-box-it-out.html


This post is about more than classroom management; consider how the conversation with teachers was facilitated (they include their agenda at the end):

https://choiceliteracy.com/article/new-teacher-conversations-management-stories-from-the-classroom/

 

Picture books to encourage writers:

https://www.edutopia.org/article/using-picture-books-encourage-student-writers

Physical activity boosts test scores:

 

https://www.the74million.org/article/jumping-jacks-lunges-and-squats-and-better-test-scores/

 

That’s it for this week. Happy Coaching!

Want more coaching tips? Check out my book, Differentxiated Mentoring & Coaching in Education: From Preservice Teacher to Expert Practitioner, available from Teachers College Press!  I’m so excited to share it with you! You can use the code: FDNF25 for 15% off. Click  here  and I’ll email you the free Book Group Study Guide that includes questions, prompts, and activities you can use as you share the book with colleagues.  I hope you’ll love this book as much as I loved making it for you!