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This season of giving and receiving is a good time to think about what it’s like to be a gracious receiver, and how that applies to coaching. A gracious receiver of a gift appreciates what they receive with kindness. Enjoying what you receive is an expression of gratitude.
How can coaches be great receivers who welcome teachers into the coaching relationship with acceptance and grace? A coach I spoke with this week talked about the importance of being open and accepting, of exuding the feeling, “You’re welcome here.” This may sound strange, especially if you are meeting in the teacher’s own room, but it’s the coach’s job to put out the welcome mat for the coaching conversation.
Showing genuine interest in a teacher’s work and their experiences in the school and in the classroom is a welcoming gesture. Ask them what gave them the greatest satisfaction at school that day or during that lesson. When you find out what a teacher values, tuck away that information and look for opportunities to build on it. For example, Rachel got great satisfaction when she saw how several of her students jumped to help when another student accidently dumped the contents of her chair pocket. Knowing that Rachel cares about student-to-student interactions, I can be sure to notice and note them. By doing this, I’m investing in Rachel’s happiness and welcoming her into the coaching relationship.
When coaching with the GIR model, we are always thinking about what the teacher needs. But moving from recommending to questioning requires a deep shift in how we, as coaches, see. We may need to work on ourselves before we work with others.
As knowledgeable, experienced educators, we are able to download solutions based on patterns that have worked in the past. This is comfortable territory! Interpretations and options for action are those we know and trust. However, as we shift our coaching moves from recommending to questioning, we are also shifting what we attend to. When making recommendations, the center of our attention is really ourselves – what we already know and can do. We perceive through the lens of judgment. When we question, our attention shifts to the unique reality in front of us. Instead of past patterns, we see the present moment and emerging futures. Instead of letting what we see confirm what we know, we suspend judgment and broaden our perceptions. Questioning opens the boundaries of potential solutions. Instead of listening to the voice inside of us, we listen to the voice in front of us.
How
can we make this internal shift?
· Listen without
letting your brain forecast your own response.
· Suspend judgment.
· Pause before
responding.
· Recognize the
possibility of multiple solutions.
· Suspend the
decision.
· Look for new
information.
· View the
situation from another perspective.
· Be ready to brainstorm.
When coaching shifts from recommending to questioning, we stop downloading the familiar from our own existing knowledge. Instead, we work collaboratively to create new possible futures. Moving from recommending to questioning is as much about changing as coaches as it is about teacher change.
This week, you might want to take a look at:
Thank you for all you do! You’re doing a good job!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkDNp4ATCso
Vocabulary activities for any age:
https://choiceliteracy.com/article/quick-vocabulary-practice-and-assessment/
This podcast about establishing relationships with students of color:
https://www.bamradionetwork.com/track/the-e-word-what-students-of-color-need-from-every-teacher/
A how-to guide for relationship mapping:
Rich picture books:
https://choiceliteracy.com/article/detour-texts/
That’s it for this week. Happy Coaching!
My husband recently bought two new cameras, reinvigorating his interest in amateur photography. While on our walk, he paused and looked down the nearby street, grabbed a camera from his pocket, and framed a photo of colorful fall trees. He wore a smile as he tucked his camera back into his pocket, and I thought to myself, “It’s good to be looking for beautiful things in this world.”
Coaches, too, can be looking for beautiful things. During observations and subsequent debriefs, a strengths-based approach can go a long way. Sometimes teachers dread coaching and even come to dislike reflection because there is a “fix-it” mentality. A fix-it approach focuses on what went wrong and brainstorms ways to correct it. In contrast, a strengths-based approach focuses on what went right and looks for ways to increase it.
Positive psychology suggests this is a helpful approach. Positivity boosts creativity. Building on strengths, rather than focusing on deficiencies, promotes confidence and resilience.
Unfortunately, humans tend to have a negativity bias, remembering unfavorable experiences more than positive ones. This has some disadvantages, Negative emotions consume energy and can lead to worrying, uncertainty, and a narrowed view of options.
In today’s educational climate, we need practices that increase energy and creativity. Decision fatigue and all the extra to-do’s because of the pandemic are weighing teachers down. So it seems the right time for a strengths-based coaching focus.
I had this on my mind as I met with Andrea last week. I had spent some time in her classroom and seen so many positive things! Even though technology failed, she didn’t miss a beat! But when I asked what stood out for her with the lesson, she said, “It was a disaster!” It took some doing to pull her back to talking about things that went well. But we ended up focusing our conversation on the open-ended questions she asked her students throughout the lesson and how students responded to them. I had specific examples in my notes, and reflecting on the higher-level thinking students were doing was encouraging. A focus on this positive outcome brought enthusiasm as she thought of specific questions to include in an upcoming lesson.
At a time in world history when it feels there is much to drag us down, a strengths-based coaching approach can renew energy and optimism. By understanding their strengths, teachers can more easily create successful learning experiences for their students.
This week, you might want to take a look at:
The role of skillful noticing:
http://www.growthcoaching.com.au/articles-new/noticing-a-key-coaching-skill
Problems and solutions when teaching with a mask:
https://apnews.com/article/virus-outbreak-connecticut-archive-52b44eed118bc03579c41795637e9b86
Instant mood-boosters:
https://aestheticsofjoy.com/2020/10/17/8-quick-things-you-can-do-right-now-to-boost-your-mood/
How to set up virtual book clubs:
https://www.edutopia.org/article/how-set-virtual-book-club-students
This podcast episode about the classroom as a place of joy:
That’s it for this week. Happy Coaching!