Friday, April 28, 2017

A Drop of Praise

Contrast has a way of emphasizing the truth.  Today as I was listening to the woes of a young teacher who’s been chased out of the profession by stress and negativism, it brought into clearer focus what I’d heard earlier in the week about praise.  Let me tell you stories from both sides of the praise experience.

Samantha was a third-year middle-school teacher with a mind for not only trivia but also big ideas – a combination that served her well as a US History teacher.  She survived the first-year experience only a little ruffled and had a solid second year, but during her third year in the classroom, Sam faced blame-and-shame from her principal.  After test scores came back, much lower than expected, the principal didn’t listen to her explanation of the scoring change that had impacted scores throughout the district.  She didn’t listen to concerns that were school-wide about this particular group of eighth-grade students.  Instead, she took away Samantha’s extracurricular (coaching the drama club), because: “We do that with students when they aren’t passing. Shouldn’t we do that with you?” She sent Samantha to a classroom management inservice, figuring that would help get the desired boost in test scores.  Samantha felt disempowered, and her desire to continue the work diminished.  “I still loved the kids and loved my team,” she said, “but the principal made it unbearable.”  She quit.

That conversation brings into stark relief a meeting I had Thursday with a group of elementary teachers. As they reflected on the power of praise, they reminisced about a favorite principal.  “She was in our rooms so much, sometimes we didn’t even notice she was there,” they said.  “Then we’d find a note in our box pointing out something we’d done well.”  “It made me want to try harder,” a teacher said.  “I wanted to be as good as she thought I was,” said another.  Praise motivated these teachers to try harder and be better.  It lifted them and encouraged them to keep going, even when the going got hard.

It’s that time of year when stamina runs low.  If achievement tests aren’t zapping your energy, students’ spring fever is.  In some parts of the country, May marks the beginning of the end of the school year.  We could all use the boost that praise provides.  As these final weeks roll around, I’m going to try to be a bucket filler whenever I can.  Whether it’s a quick comment in the hall, a note in the mailbox, or an email sent at the end of the day, a drop of praise can make a big difference in the life of a teacher.

This week, you might want to take a look at:

Pool noodle fractions (great dollar-store manipulatives!):



Leftovers from National Poetry Month - 10 poetry ideas for middle school students (adaptable!):



Movie making and the literacy connection:



Effective book talks: Advise from students:



Spotlight on English Language Learners:



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Friday, April 21, 2017

Push and Lift

Have you ever had those moments where you just want a re-do on a conversation?  The ability to rewind, take back, and replay what just happened?  Thankfully, those moments tend to happen more in my personal situations than professional ones (my family’s pretty forgiving, and mostly they’re stuck with me!).  But, this week I had a “wish-I-could-take-that-back” moment with a student teacher.

Many of my coaching moments come from interactions with pre-service teachers.  Since I’m their university supervisor, these situations can be loaded, because they include evaluation (which we’re cautioned to avoid as coaches).  So that makes my conversations with them pretty high-stakes.  

Now, as I write this, it is April 21.  My student teachers are almost done with their year-long internship experience.  I expect them to be good.  I expect them to be ready.  I expect them to be proficient.  But sometimes, they’re not…..yet.  You might have similar expectations and disappointments with the teachers you’re working with – whether novice or experienced.  There are often things that aren’t going well that should be addressed.  And I’m out there every week on the internet giving advice about how to address such things, so I ought to know how to do it.  But my conversation with Bethany this week definitely needed a re-do. 

When I observed Sandi’s class this week and noticed the lesson falling flat, I felt the time had come to shake things up.  To basically say, Hey, we’ve only got a few weeks left. We’ve got work to do!  I had been patient, mentioning and working with Sandi on one thing at a time over the course of the year.  She is smart and a hard worker, but things just haven’t clicked.  The progress has been slow.  So this week, with less than a month left, I think my patience was running short.  I wanted to go in for the quick fix.  I wanted to somehow make things hurry up and happen that hadn’t happened gradually all year long.  Looking back, I think I came into the conversation with guns blazing!  I pointed out several things that seemed like evidence she wasn’t ready yet to take on her own classroom…problems with pacing, classroom management, and giving directions.  I gave specific examples and recommendations until I noticed tears beginning to well up in Sandi’s eyes.  Whoa – I put on the brakes, but too late.  The fact that there were many things to fix and time was short didn’t suddenly give Sandi more insight and ability.  Sometimes, a shake-up is needed and actually useful in these situations, giving a teacher a reality-check that change is needed.  But my conversation with Sandi didn’t do that.  Without a little coddling, she is unlikely to have the efficacy to change.  So I tried again the next day. I couldn’t really get a conversation re-do, but hopefully my follow-up did some relationship repair.  

This time, after observing, I began by pointing out the things that went well. This time, I offered possible recommendations and asked which she thought would work best.  This time, I hope I did not offend. 

As a coach, there’s always a balance between pushing and lifting.  The push comes through asking questions that require honest reflection and hard thinking. Pushing brings awareness and urgency about the need to change.  The lift comes through recommendations and praise.  Unfortunately, there’s no magic formula for how much of each to include to produce the desired results.  That equation is dependent upon context and personality.  I didn’t get it right with Sandi this week, but I’ll keep trying, adjusting the pushing-lifting ratio.  After all, coaching is a learning experience for the coach, too.


This week, you might want to take a look at:

The abacus and CCSS:



Lesson idea for poems about objects (National Poetry Month continues!):



“Poem in Your Pocket” day is April 27!  Get ready to celebrate with these ideas:



DIY place-value cups (I love these manipulatives!):



Avoid fake news by making sure it passes the CRAP test:


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, April 14, 2017

“Yes, And” Not “Yes, But”

I had a conversation with a friend this week about her moody early-adolescent son that provides some insights about coaching.  If you know or parent a young teen, you’ve probably had experiences similar to my friend’s.  Her son was on a trip to New York City, and as she checked in with him each night she noticed at pattern.

“How was walking across the Brooklyn bridge?”
“It was a cool view, but it was so windy!”

“How was China Town?”
“The food was good, but the lines were long.”

“What did you think of the museum?”
“The exhibits were cool, but we stayed too long.

It was as if my friend’s son couldn’t allow himself to be happy. His, “but” wiped the positive out of every situation.

But, the contradictive contraction, is also an enemy to coaching.  When a teacher is describing something in a lesson that she perceives as effective, I have sometimes countered with, “Yes, but,” choosing to focus on the thing I felt needed changing.

Teacher:  Students were really engaged during the video!
Coach: Yes, but they lost focus right afterward during the discussion.

Teacher:  Look how well Chandra did on this assignment!
Coach: Yes, but over half of the class didn’t meet the objective.

Teacher:  This is such a fun project! I do it every year in April.
Coach: Yes, but it requires students to bring a lot of materials from home.

But – the three-letter word that can instantly take the wind out of a teacher’s sails!  Now that I realize the effects, I try replacing it with an additive conjunction.  Here’s how the above responses might sound instead:

“Yes, and students were really engaged again later during small-group work.  What do you think made them so engaged during those activities?”

“Yes, and I noticed many other students made similar growth. Let’s take a closer look.”

“Yes, and I’m thinking it might be a great opportunity for incorporating technology that all students can access at school.”

If but is a downer add-on, and might be the antidote.  I’ve noticed but seems to close teachers down; however, teachers seem to welcome an expansive response to their views.  So the next time you catch yourself ready to say, “Ýes, but….” think of my friend’s teenager and vow to have a more positive view.  Your coaching will be better for it!


This week, you might want to take a look at:



Coaching for equity:



Thinking about onomatopoeia during National Poetry Month?  Try this lesson for K-2:



Fusing poetry and content with apostrophe poems.  Here are some ideas:


Writing a scientific explanation:


That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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Friday, April 7, 2017

Be a Nudger

Change is hard, so sometimes we need a nudge to make it happen.  This week, I nudged a teacher to share her outstanding lesson with her peers.  I nudged another to take a close look at student work.  And I was nudged by my colleague to get a new writing project started.  We may lack confidence, courage, or motivation to try new things of which we are capable, but a nudge can get us moving in the right direction!

Pushing, on the other hand, usually doesn’t work.  To push is to “press against with force.”  That doesn’t sound very nice, does it?  When someone pushes against me with force, I’ve noticed that I have a tendancy to push back.  It seems like the natural way to keep my equilibrium.  If I don’t offer some resistance, I might topple over from the force. 

But a nudge allows me to keep my footing.  I’m not going to fall, I’m just going to move forward.  To nudge is to touch gently or urge into action.  A nudge is a recommendation loaded with assurance.  Pete Carroll said, “Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out. Sometimes they just need a little nudge, a little direction, a little support, a little coaching, and the greatest things can happen.”  He was talking about football, but instructional coaches can similarly unlock power. A coach might:
·         Urge teachers to work together on a problem of practice.
·         Suggest a book that could offer insight.
·         Encourage a teacher to present at a staff meeting.
·         Ask a teacher to let peers observe in her classroom.
·         Offer leadership opportunities to others.
·         Inspire teachers to try new approaches.
·         Reassure an unconfident teacher that she can manage the new technology.

A nudge is likely to be received gracefully and with appreciation.  A pushy recommendation is likely to be met with pushback rather than change.  Take a moment and reflect on who might need a nudge to take that next positive step – something you know they are capable of doing, but they may not.  Being a pusher can be tiresome and unproductive, but being a nudger – well, that’s something to aspire to!


This week, you might want to take a look at:

30 ways to celebrate national poetry month (April!):



A video about helping students enter a poem (great teaching advice!): 



Using scripting during observation and coaching:



Spotlight on Rti:



This long article is worth the read—Effective interventions for kids who lack cognitive and emotional readiness to learn:



That’s it for this week.  Happy Coaching!

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